10% Happier with Dan Harris Folgen

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- The New Year is approaching and this is a time when many of us think about making and breaking new habits. So today we're bringing on one of the smartest people when it comes to habits, best-selling author and speaker Gretchen Rubin. Gretchen's contention is that before you embark on a self-improvement project, it's crucial to have some self-awareness about what kind of person you are. She has devised a framework called the Four Tendencies, which helps you identify your personality type in order to gain powerful insights into how you make or break habits.  Rubin is a lawyer by training and began her career clerking for Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O'Connor. Gretchen then went on to write a series of books that examine small and doable ways to boost our happiness in everyday life. These include: The Happiness Project, which spent two years on the bestseller list and sold over 3.5 million copies worldwide, and Better Than Before. We initially conducted the interview you're about to hear back in 2017, when Gretchen released a book called The Four Tendencies.  In this episode we talk about: How and why Gretchen developed the Four Tendencies framework How Gretchen's framework can give each of us a recipe for successful habit change Breaking down the Four Tendencies: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, or Rebels How these Four Tendencies are an overlapping Venn diagram  What "obliger rebellion" is and how to spot it in your relationships The value of forming an accountability group And why Gretchen sometimes calls herself a happiness bully   Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/gretchen-rubin-99-rerun

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Today we're tackling some thorny dharma questions. For example: How do you love someone without attachment? How do you love yourself when the self is allegedly an illusion?  Kevin Griffin is both a long time Buddhist practitioner and also a 12 step participant, and in another previous episode we talked to him about the nature of craving and addiction. In this popular episode from the archives, Kevin talks about his semi-skeptical take on loving kindness – that venerable if somewhat misunderstood Buddhist concept and practice. His book is being re-released this month, with a slightly new title Living Kindness: Metta Practice for the Whole of Our Lives.  In this conversation, we talk about: Loving kindness versus living kindness The dangers of modern loving kindness practice  The idea that you don't have to feel love all the time And we talk about a Buddhist text called the Metta Sutta.  Content Warning: The interview includes brief references to addiction and other forms of suffering. Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/kevin-griffin-370-rerun

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- If you're tired of the venom, preening, and predatory listening so common on all sides of our various cultural divides, this episode is for you.  My guest today is Loretta Ross, who believes that "calling out," which is quite common on social media these days, is adding way too much toxicity to the discourse and alienating people who might otherwise be allies. Instead, she believes in "calling in," which steadfastly insists on a large measure of grace, and rejects the impulse to dehumanize.  On today's show, Loretta offers a compelling mode of engagement that is insistently open-minded and large-hearted, no matter where you stand on the political divide.  Loretta describes herself as a radical Black feminist, activist, and public intellectual. She's a visiting Associate Professor at Smith College, and she also teaches an online course called, Calling in the Calling Out Culture.  Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/loretta-ross-316-rerun