10% Happier with Dan Harris Folgen

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- There seems to be one clear bug in the human operating system — most of us do not like talking about death. Yet when we do talk about it, it can genuinely upgrade the quality of our lives. Our guest today is Alua Arthur, a former attorney who is now what's called a death doula, which is someone who helps guide people through the end of their lives. Through this work, she has learned some extraordinary stuff about how to live life right now.  Alua is also the founder of Going with Grace, a death doula training and end-of-life planning organization. She is working on her debut memoir, which will be coming out next year called, Briefly Perfectly Human. This conversation took place at the 2023 TED Conference in Vancouver, immediately after Alua delivered her triumphant talk, which is out now. Special thanks to the TED Audio Collective. You can listen to Alua's talk and other TED talks on the TED Talks Daily podcast.  In this episode we talk about: How death can be a powerful motivator  How consistently being aware that you're going to die can be a "stress reliever"  The utility of imagining your ideal death Her view on reincarnation  How the concept of "healing" can sometimes be used as a weapon against ourselves  The importance of not leaving things unsaid  How "hope" at the end of life can sometimes be unhelpful What surprises her about death  How her work helped her out of her depression The five steps that you should take when confronting your own death  The harm that can sometimes result from too much medical intervention toward the end of life The often fraught relationship that vulnerable and marginalized people can have with the medical community  The benefits of thinking about what version of yourself you want to meet on your deathbed The death meditation that she uses when working with people  What to say and do when you are with somebody who is grieving  And a practice she calls, "The dying things exercise"  For tickets to TPH's live event in Boston on September 7: https://thewilbur.com/armory/artist/dan-harris/ Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/Alua-Arthur-619

Check out our friends at How to Be a Better Human podcast, as we take a look within and beyond ourselves. How to Be a Better Human isn't your average self-improvement podcast. It's a show that understands that being a human is hard -- because no one tells you how to do it well! Join comedian Chris Duffy as he has conversations with the kind of brilliant experts you see giving TED Talks. Listen as they share how anyone can put big ideas into practice in their own lives, and make them a little less terrible. Because although we do our best to figure out life on our own, we can always use some help. Find How to Be a Better Human wherever you get your podcasts.

New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Our relationships are the most important variable in our health and happiness, but they may also be the most difficult. This is especially true when those closest to us turn out to be emotionally immature people. Lindsay C. Gibson is a clinical psychologist and bestselling author who specializes in helping people identify and deal with emotionally immature people, or EIP's. Her first appearance on our show was one of our most popular episodes of 2022. Now she's back to offer concrete strategies for handling the EIP's in your life, wherever you may find them. Her new book is called Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People. In this episode we talk about: A primer on the cardinal characteristics of emotionally immature people (EIP's), how to spot them, and why you might want to What Lindsay means by "disentangling" from EIP's, and how to do it What often happens to your own sense of self when you're in relationship (or even just in conversation) with an EIP  How to interact with an EIP  How to prevent brain scramble when you're talking with someone who isn't making any attempt to understand what you're saying   How she reacts when she comes across EIP's in her everyday life Whether it's possible to have some immature characteristics without being an EIP Handling your own emotionally immature tendencies   Whether or not EIP's can change The limits of estrangement Why she encourages "alternatives to forgiveness" For tickets to TPH's live event in Boston on September 7: https://thewilbur.com/armory/artist/dan-harris/ Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/lindsay-c-gibson-617